Thursday, April 16, 2015

Do One Small Thing Differently

What is coaching?

Coaching is a conversation between a client and a coach (life coach, executive coach, health coach, etc)  that leads to goal-setting and solution-focused outcomes that when implemented, actually requires the client's brain to create new neural pathways to support new patterns of thinking and behaving.  Coaching commands the brain to think in new ways in order to create those neural pathways that ultimately have a positive effect on how the brain works. If you aren't sure about this, just google 'neuroplasticity'... there's tons of research on the science of brain change. By creating goals and visualizing a possible outcome that you'd like to experience, the coach can help you disaggregate clutter and information, deconstruct and clarify the larger vision of what you'd like to experience into smaller, manageable steps.  Expecting your life to change just because you want it to, may cause you to feel defeated, setting you up to repeat old patterns of failure or disappointment, a road you've been down many times before.  Expecting life to change without an action plan, without a vision for the future, is an exercise in self sabotage that keeps you mired in the muck.

If you are feeling stuck and want to experience life in a new way, you have to be willing to make a commitment to change the way you do things even if it brings you discomfort in the beginning, even if your ego feels challenged. If you want adventure, but you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone, whatever that may be, forget about ever experiencing excitement. If you want to be a leader, but are afraid to give voice to your ideas, those ideas are going to die with you, having never been heard. If you want to live a healthier life, start by standing at your computer, rather than sitting.  Do one small thing differently to build new neural pathways, which will give rise to more new behaviors and new thinking.

Have you read the children's book, Give a Mouse a Cookie, by Laura Numeroff?  I have a tendency to want a sweet with my tea when I sit down to my computer to work. Knowing that I am like that mouse whose cookie triggers the wanting of other triggers (the cookie leads to a glass of milk, which leads to needing a straw which leads to a napkin, which leads to a mirror, which ultimately leads him back to another cookie), I decided to change one small thing in the sequence of events that leads me to the sweet.  Instead of sitting, I stand at my computer which changes my course. Amazing.

New behaviors lead to new thinking which leads to new behaviors which leads to more new thinking. This push and pull, pull and push moves you forward, one step at a time, increasing confidence, skill and awareness as you go. Slowly, or quickly, depending on how much commitment and drive you bring to coaching, change takes place.  Whether you want to change your relationship with money, authority, your health, with the people you care about- manage- or work for, or your relationship with yourself, consider collaborating with a coach to help you with those goals. Expand your world by confronting a limiting belief or, what the heck, experiment with optimism. Find courage and compassion beyond shame and anger. Live happier.... it's possible.


Ellen from Elleon Coaching
www.elleoncoaching.com
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/205531





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